I did a post a few weeks ago about depression in the elderly. It is an important subject but just as important is depression in the young which seems to be increasing year on year with one youngster in 10 being on pharmaceutical drugs for psychological issues. Peer pressure definition goes into why our kids are depressed and stressed.
Kids under pressure
There seems to be so much pressure on the younger generation these days. Peer pressure for one, which seems to be of the utmost importance to any young person nowadays. Why the kids can’t be their own person, I don’t know. It seems to be so important for them to be part of a gang or group, even if the members of that group do not have the best of manners or are often into fighting, smoking pot or worse. This, of course, can lead to a life of crime which the other members often get caught up in.
Those on the brink
Those kids that have parents or other relatives that are either incarcerated or have been, can inexplicably take the same path. If you’ve every watched the US show ’Troubled Teens: Jail Shock’ you will see what I mean. These kids, often as young as 9 or 10, are on the brink of going to jail or being detained because of their attitude and criminal actions. Many seem to smoke weed and/or drink to excess and nearly all of them are angry, disrespectful to those that love them most, as well as attacking and abusing their teachers and having no regard for those in authority.
It starts at an early age
I don’t know how this downward spiral starts with the youngsters of today but it certainly can start at a very early age. Many toddlers display disruptive behaviour which then turn into more serious conditions. By the age of 9 or 10 some can be uncontrollable and the desperate parents have to ask for help. Quite often drugs are administered at an alarming rate with 10 million US children and young adults on anti-depressents. 5 million are on a stimulant medication such as Ritalin because of psychiatric complaints.
Have you had problems with your child?
I think there are many factors that have changed the young lives of our children today and I would like to list them here. If you disagree, or have something to say, I’d be pleased to hear your views. Especially if you have had first hand experience of your child having a so called psychological disorder:
How it was – the media
Being an oldie, I can remember when the media, especially television, was entertainment that was great for anyone in the family to watch. We would all sit around the ‘box’ and be amused or enthralled by various situation comedies or nature programs. News was edited not to include anything that would upset or frighten the kids.
Now, anything goes on the TV and that includes pornographic material that is on before the 9pm watershed. Not that it matters because most youngsters have TVs in their bedroom and can watch what they like, when they like, that’s apart from their laptops, smart phones and tablets. Other acceptable programs can and will include excessive violence including rape, torture, murder and all the savagery that goes with it. Why do we allow our youngsters to be subjected to this material? It is often shocking to adults let alone a youngster. Remember the James Bulger case? The two boys who killed James were evidently watching a video the night before called Chuckie!
How it was – dating
Call me old fashioned but I can remember a time when a boy would ask a girl on a date and he would come around the house to call on the girl so mum and dad knew who she would be out with that evening. This was common practice.
One night stands are common place even with young teenagers. There seems to be little respect from either sex with young girls being put on the pill just in case. It is accepted now that youngsters will experiment with sex at earlier ages than ever before. Why is this? Well, just look at the media. Teenage romps and school sexual politics are all over the TV. Take the program ‘The Joy of Teen Sex’. Ok, all kids need to know about sex etc., but it seems to be foisted upon them and I fear they are pressurized into dabbling in sex before they’re ready. It’s as though if you haven’t had sex by the time you’re 16, there must be something wrong with you.
How it was – Education
Education was something that was taken seriously by most kids. We struggled hard to gain our grades and certificates. In the UK the old fashioned GCE certificate was respected and taken notice of by prospective employers. We wanted to do well and please our parents.
Upsetting, swearing and disrespecting parents now seems to be a national sport! The watered down GCSE seems to hold no regard as being evidence of education with many youngsters still struggling to read and write. Those that really want to learn have difficulty because many subjects are not taught in our schools, because of a lack of qualified teachers. It is appalling that our future generation is not as educated in the core subjects like maths, science and physics as we were in our day. Education should have improved for our kids, not gone backwards. Our educational system seems to have lost the plot! My husband was asked to give lessons to a friend’s 15 year old for her GCSE. Why? Because none of her teachers were qualified to teach the subjects of Chemistry and Biology. Neither is my husband but he was her best bet. The pressures put on those kids taking exams, the subjects of which have not even been taught properly, is disgraceful!
How it was – Christmas
The media was really quite well regulated or perhaps it just hadn’t got going yet. Even so, toys, games, tv, video and the suchlike did not have the subject matter that we have today. Christmas, for instance, was about the family getting together and having a great time. Childrens’ presents, although simple in comparison to today, were cherished and looked after. They could be handed down to siblings because they were well made and stood the test of time. A child would be happy with a stocking with all the usual edible goodies and a small toy. They would have at most 2 presents from their parents and a few from surrounding relatives.
Everything is a must have and they must have it all NOW! Parents feel obliged to do their best to buy everything their child wants. It is sometimes obscene what presents some kids get for Xmas. I’m not a religious person but I thought Xmas was about family and friends and being charitable, goodwill to all men etc.. Kids now have the knack of wearing their parents down until they submit to buying stuff that they can ill afford. Why are some children so selfish and materialistic? Well, you can blame us the parents. We have allowed them to become that way.
How is was – Fashion
Children in my day were not obsessed with clothing. Their parents would buy their clothes until such time they left school and went to work. They could then buy what they could afford for themselves. Fashion was something for the older person say in their 20s or 30s.
Now a child of 3 has got to be in fashion! Putting on makeup and making yourself look older than you really are is common nowadays. Young girls feel pressured into looking like the popstars they idolize. Breast implants are now being given to girls as young as 18 years! Girls are eating badly to keep thin. Boys are also worried about body image and can have low self esteem because of it. Celebrities such as Rihanna, Harry Styles of One Direction, Cheryl Cole, Justin Bieber and David Beckham influence our kids. These idols are having implants, face-lifts, botox and other unnatural substances put into their bodies and our kids are copying them. God help us!
All these pressures!
With all these pressures, it’s no wonder so many of our children have depression. Academic and social pressures abound. Comparing and competing with their airbrushed and plastic celebrities as well as dealing with the pressures of schooling and family life is leading them down a path of misery. Bullying is another problem, with kids not fitting in being sent to task and ridiculed by their counterparts.
Playboy and pole dancing!
Children’s products like pencil cases and girls’ watches have playboy emblems on them. Pole dancing is described as a good exercise regime for young girls. Our children are missing out on their childhood. It is all so unnatural and it’s no wonder they are suffering from all kinds of depression, anxiety and psychological conditions.
Forced to grow up fast
Kids today are being forced to grow up too fast. They are forced to make decisions about their actions which they shouldn’t be making when they’re not yet cooked! The media is the main culprit. I blame games like X-BOX where blood and gore is so realistic, our youngsters are becoming desensitized to violence. They are lacking in empathy. If they saw a horrific accident on the street, I wonder how many young people would NOT find it shocking because of all the savagery, cruelty and barbarity they’ve seen on these so called games.
It’s not their fault!
It’s not their fault, it’s ours. We are not strong enough to stop it. If the public shows distaste and voted with their feet, the media would have to toe the line and fall in with what we really want for our kids. I know what we do want for them is not what they’re getting today. They are reacting to the life foisted upon them with depression, anxiety, aggression, misery, discontent and disrespect of their parents, elders and those in authority.
Not all kids though
I know this is a generalization and you’re probably saying, my child’s not like this! But many are and the amount of youngsters on drugs for psychological problems is quite frankly alarming!
The number of children and adolescents in the US, between the ages of 0-17 years taking psychiatric drugs such as anti-anxiety drugs, antidepressants, ADHD drugs and antipsychotics is a staggering 17,922,134 of those 2,134,230 are administered to 0-5 year olds.¹
You can do something
If your child is suffering from any debilitating conditions like depression or ADHD, you can help by making sure they are eating properly, by getting all the nutrition they need and not supplying junk foods and sodas. If they are having problems then they will be deficient in important minerals and vitamins. Magnesium (Mg) is of the utmost importance and supplementing their diet with this vital mineral will definitely help lighten their mood, calm their anxiety and lift their depression.
The relaxation mineral.
In the early 20th century, Mg was in abundance. It was estimated that we consumed around 500mg of Mg per day. Our soils were replete in all necessary nutrients. Now Mg is thin on the ground, literally. Bad farming practices, pesticides, fungicides and fertilizers have stripped Mg, this most vital of elements, from our soils. Mg is the relaxation mineral and its antagonist partner calcium (Ca) is the tension mineral. Many of the psychological conditions will be exacerbated or even induced with an imbalance of these two minerals. It is now the norm for us to take in overdoses of Ca. The food manufacturers make sure we have an abundance of this mineral by fortifying many foods. Ca is advocated by medics and TV adverts to be the best mineral for children for strong bones and teeth and for the elderly to alleviate osteoporosis. This is a dangerous concept if it has not got its partner Mg to keep it in control.
Mg controls Ca
Mg ensures that Ca is kept out of our cells and is laid down in our bones and teeth. If Ca is allowed to stay in the cell, the cell will die. Without Mg, Ca can migrate to any part of the body where it doesn’t belong. On its own, It will also induce tension in the brain and in the body. Think of muscle spasms, kidney stones, tremors, migraines, arterial plaque, bone spurs, osteoporosis. Mg is needed in every one of our 37.2 trillion cells. Without enough of it we will be sick in body and mind, guaranteed!
Don’t have junk food or sodas in the house
Our youngsters have enough to contend with. Keeping their diet healthy and nourishing and steering them away from the junk and the sodas is something parents can do to help alleviate conditions their child may suffer from. Don’t keep any junk in the house. At least then you know you’re doing your best to keep them healthy. Start this regime early and you may actually protect your child from future problems. Don’t forget, Mg can help, big time!
- SOURCE: IMS, Vector One: National (VONA) and Total Patient Tracker (TPT) Database, Year 2013, Extracted April 2014.